How to use mindfulness to overcome childhood trauma

Mindfulness has played a pivotal role in helping me overcome the symptoms of my unmet childhood needs. Many think of silent meditation when they hear the word. But it is far more accessible than that. Mindfulness simply means nonjudgmental acceptance of the present moment. Jon-Kabat Zinn has been credited with bringing this Buddhist concept to …

How to stop expectation from ruining your life

It’s often said that comparison is the thief of joy, and expectation is the close cousin to that robber. Rather than comparing yourself to others, you compare reality to what could have been and feel you come up short. Instead of accepting things as they are, we stay focused on the future. We see happiness …

How to stop needing closure after a toxic relationship

When a relationship ends, people often seek closure. When you leave someone due to their toxicity, freedom is often not enough. In fact, you cannot feel free without answers to lingering questions. Closure refers to a feeling of resolution and understanding following the end of a relationship. But when does the need for closure hold …

How to use meditation to shift your hard work mindset

I know from experience that the best things in my life never came from hard work. And when I started a morning meditation practice (literally sitting there doing nothing), money began to appear. My biggest windfalls arrived, not from extra effort, but from releasing and making space to receive. That’s the opposite of what we’re …

How to overcome visibility fears after childhood trauma

If you come from a background of childhood abuse and neglect, visibility might seem harder for you than for others. It’s more than a matter of introvert vs. extrovert tendencies, or simply getting over yourself. For someone who grew up with unmet childhood needs, visibility can feel dangerous. There are good reasons why some of …