If you come from a background of childhood abuse and neglect, visibility might seem harder for you than for others. It’s more than a matter of introvert vs. extrovert tendencies, or simply getting over yourself. For someone who grew up with unmet childhood needs, visibility can feel dangerous. There are good reasons why some of …
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One of the key tools when reparenting yourself involves developing strong boundaries. When you’ve been raised to cater to everyone else’s needs, setting boundaries is far more difficult than it sounds. Having poor boundaries has been our brain’s way of keeping us safe by people-pleasing. That’s because as children If we could keep our parents happy …
Do you tend to put your head in the sand when challenges arise? Instead of facing something head on, do you struggle with avoidance of the issue? Someone from my past said they wished they’d never opened the mail when it revealed a suspended driver’s license. And that was over unpaid parking tickets they’d also …
Before I started my healing journey, a voice inside my head would whisper, “that’s not for you,” anytime I thought about something I wanted. Feeling unworthy came as naturally to me as breathing. Whether buying only sale items, or spending time with people who neither inspired nor respected me, I betrayed myself by settling for …
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Have you ever gone on a pleasure diet? I’m not talking about eating things that make you happy (though that can be part of it). I mean engaging in pleasure-seeking activities to reconnect with yourself. Often our lives become so consumed with have-tos, we forget about the importance of want-tos. That leads to feelings of …