Have you ever gone on a pleasure diet? I’m not talking about eating things that make you happy (though that can be part of it). I mean engaging in pleasure-seeking activities to reconnect with yourself. Often our lives become so consumed with have-tos, we forget about the importance of want-tos. That leads to feelings of …
How do we care for ourselves when we never learned that we matter? That question differentiates trauma-informed self care from the everyday variety. When you’ve grown up without the affirmation that you’re worthy of love and attention, self care becomes complex. It’s less about having the time or resources and more about having no idea …
Do you believe that when you envision your future you create it? I used to doubt this school of thought, but mounting evidence in my life says otherwise. The latest support for this theory came yesterday when Oprah’s people called me. Yes, you read that right. They contacted me to discuss an article of mine …
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Have you ever indulged in revenge fantasies? These are the normal outcome of feeling victimized or traumatized by others. Especially if you’ve suffered from PTSD, complex or otherwise. I’ve lived long enough to see my childhood bully come to a grisly and untimely end at the hands of a family member. Another of my perpetrators …
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It may sound obvious, but the key to fulfilling your heart’s desires is to focus on what you want. It’s human nature to worry about what we don’t have, be it money, success, or love. However, bringing attention to things you don’t want only creates more of the same. That’s because we’re powerful beings who …