There’s a saying that your level of success and satisfaction in life is dependent on your ability to attract the right people into your life. They say the five people with whom you spend the most time have the biggest impact on your quality of life. Before I began this healing journey, I poo-pooed that …
Do you have trouble asking for what you want without feeling guilty? There are likely some good reasons for that which extend back to childhood. If you grew up in a home where you learned that your needs burdened others, you would suppress them. You internalized the idea that your needs were your problem and …
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One of the many outcomes of childhood trauma is black and white thinking. This is the all or nothing mentality that leaves no room for two things to be true at once. If your home life was chaotic and traumatic, black and white thinking may have given you a sense of control. It allowed you …
It’s often said that comparison is the thief of joy, and expectation is the close cousin to that robber. Rather than comparing yourself to others, you compare reality to what could have been and feel you come up short. Instead of accepting things as they are, we stay focused on the future. We see happiness …
If you grew up in a dysfunctional home, learning to express your emotions may be challenging. If you encountered emotional neglect and abuse, you had to suppress your feelings to survive. Our emotions tell us what we need. If, as children, we discovered no one cared about our needs, emotions could feel dangerous. Instead of …
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