The truth that will change your life:

it’s not your fault.

“Each chapter offers profound insights into some of the most common struggles faced by adult survivors of toxic family members.”

-Dr. Sherrie Campbell, clinical psychologist and author

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we sometimes feel like our own worst enemies…

We sabotage our success and with it our chance for lasting happiness and opportunities for personal and professional fulfillment.

It’s Not Your Fault helps readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back. These blind spots were often created in childhood as coping mechanisms in response to trauma.

Rather than teaching tactics that ignore or give surface attention to adverse childhood events, the book lovingly guides readers to explore the ways these events have impacted their lives and how this knowledge will help them access true transformation.

Readers will be relieved to discover that it's not a lack of willpower that has held them back, but a lack of self-knowledge instead.

introducing

it’s not your fault:

The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop

If you’ve been let down by traditional therapeutic techniques, you know that behavior modification doesn’t work for everyone. Simply doing things differently while staying the same on the inside might help for the short term, but before long old patterns emerge. Once you decide to get serious about healing a narcissistic mother wound, for example, you can create a life by design instead of default.

who is this book for?

  • You are ready to become your best self-advocate rather than your worst critic.

  • You know you were made for more but can’t figure out how to reach your full potential.

  • You have plenty of willpower but can’t seem to stop doing things that hurt you and hold you back.

  • You struggle to set boundaries and this has prevented you from showing up as your authentic self.

  • You’ve done therapy but their strategies and solutions haven’t worked for you long-term.

  • You want to transform or break free from relationships that aren’t working for you.

  • you are tired of tough love and want a more compassionate approach to healing your self-sabotage.

THE REVIEWS ARE IN!

  • "A must-read for anyone who has suffered at the hands of a toxic family."

    “Laura Connell has written a must-read for anyone who has suffered at the hands of a toxic family system. Laura’s book brings together critical elements, desperately needed for overcoming childhood shame, resulting addictions and low self-esteem. Each chapter of her book offers profound insights into some of the most common struggles faced by adult survivors of toxic family members.”

    -Dr. Sherrie Campbell, clinical psychologist and author

  • "A healing salve for anyone on a journey to find who they truly are."

    “Going through the pages of this book is a healing salve for anyone on a journey to find who they truly are after growing up in a dysfunctional environment. In It’s Not Your Fault, Laura offers a clear and innovative blueprint to help the reader dissolve the hurt that keeps them in self abandonment, reclaim healthy love and embody their authenticity when they no longer abide by the expectations that were projected onto them in dysfunctional dynamics.” -Xavier Dagba, Transformational Coach & Shadow integration facilitator.

  • "A must-read for anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family system."

    It’s Not Your Fault is a powerful book of knowledge and wisdom for those whose invisible childhood wounds are preventing them from living their best life. Coupling personal experience with scientific research, Laura does a beautiful job of explaining “the problem” in an extremely digestible way. She gives the reader great hope by outlining a path to healing that is both tangible and achievable. This is a must-read for anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family system… so basically everyone!” -Andrea Ashley, host of the Adult Child podcast

  • "A breathtaking guidebook on identifying and healing self-sabotage."

    “With such compassion and clarity, Laura has written a breathtaking guidebook on identifying and healing self-sabotage.

    It's Not Your Fault is a shame-lifting read that will invite you and resource you to meet yourself with the utmost care.”

    -Ashley Beaudin, self-sabotage and gentle business coach

hello, I’m Laura

I’m a trauma-informed author and coach who grew up in a dysfunctional family system with emotional abuse and neglect. I grew up feeling like there was something wrong with me, a fatal flaw that kept me from enjoying the success, love and acceptance others enjoyed.

Over the last 12 years I’ve studied the dynamics of dysfunctional families, with a focus on narcissistic and family scapegoat abuse. Now I have a life aligned with my values and goals where I’m on my own side instead of in my own way. I believe this same transformation is available to you and this book will provide you with the tools to access it.