Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
How to stop being strong
Being strong is another symptom of growing up in a dysfunctional home. When emotions or mistakes are viewed as weaknesses, you man (or woman) up to survive.
Why letting go of toxic people improves your whole life
You may have heard the value of letting go of negative feelings. But have you considered letting go of those people who create misery in your life instead?
How to understand why criticism makes you fall apart
If you grew up without praise or encouragement, you will feel overly sensitive to criticism. You equate criticism with rejection that feels life-threatening.
Why it’s important to let go of needing to know why
Needing to know why keeps you stuck. You believe answering the question of why family members treated you the way they did will give you closure.
How to deal with guilt feelings and where they come from
Bréne Brown says guilt tells you when you’ve done something wrong. However, for those raised with abuse and neglect, guilt can be a conditioned response.
3 devastating ways childhood trauma impacts us as adults
It’s Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop guides readers to explore the ways childhood trauma impacts their lives.
Why the scapegoat leaves and how to survive the fallout
When the scapegoat leaves, it is after a long period of gaslighting and bullying that has created a sense of self-loathing and made staying intolerable.
Cycle breaker: what it means and how to become one
You may have seen the term cycle breaker on Instagram and other media. It refers to someone challenging past generational patterns so they can live differently.
How to know you have a narcissistic mother wound
When Christina Crawford wrote about her abusive mother, Joan, in Mommie Dearest, several celebrities came out in defense of the actress.
How to attract the right people into your life
There’s a saying that your level of success and satisfaction in life is dependent on your ability to attract the right people into your life.
How to ask for what you want without feeling guilty
Do you have trouble asking for what you want without feeling guilty? There are likely some good reasons for that which extend back to childhood.
How to know when "you ruin everything" means something else
Have you been told “you ruin everything”? Perhaps not in so many words. But expressing honest thoughts or feelings got you maligned or punished.
How to stop expectation from ruining your life
It’s often said that comparison is the thief of joy, and expectation is the close cousin to that robber. Rather than comparing yourself to others, you compare reality to what could have been and feel you come up short.
How to recognize contempt in a dysfunctional family
If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, you may have been treated with contempt. When your parents looked at you with disdain rather than love, that was contempt.
How to stop needing closure after a toxic relationship
When a relationship ends, people often seek closure. When you leave someone due to their toxicity, freedom is often not enough. In fact, you cannot feel free without answers to lingering questions.
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