Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
How to know your relationship struggles come from childhood
Relationship struggles can leave you feeling confused, baffled, and lonely. You wonder why the same patterns keep repeating or if there’s something wrong with you.
How to understand devastating relationship patterns
Do you repeat relationship patterns? Even when you tell yourself you’ll never make the same mistake? That’s because you still have something to learn from that pattern.
Let’s talk about love
When the people who were supposed to love you didn’t, you feel like love is scarce, hard to get, and confusing.
But love is the most natural thing in the world.
How to know when chemistry is a trauma bond
Did a parent make you feel as though you had to strive to win their love? This primes you to feel attraction or trauma bond to people who treat you the same.
How accepting their limitations will set you free
Have you ever been told to “let go” of resentment over how a family member treated you? Rather than letting go I suggest accepting their limitations instead.
How to attract the right people into your life
There’s a saying that your level of success and satisfaction in life is dependent on your ability to attract the right people into your life.
How to ask for what you want without feeling guilty
Do you have trouble asking for what you want without feeling guilty? There are likely some good reasons for that which extend back to childhood.
How to overcome black and white thinking
One of the many outcomes of childhood trauma is black and white thinking. This is the all or nothing mentality that leaves no room for two things to be true at once.
How to stop expectation from ruining your life
It’s often said that comparison is the thief of joy, and expectation is the close cousin to that robber. Rather than comparing yourself to others, you compare reality to what could have been and feel you come up short.
How to express your emotions in spite of toxic family
If you grew up in a dysfunctional home, learning to express your emotions may be challenging. If you encountered emotional neglect and abuse, you had to suppress your feelings to survive.
How to recognize contempt in a dysfunctional family
If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, you may have been treated with contempt. When your parents looked at you with disdain rather than love, that was contempt.
How to stop needing closure after a toxic relationship
When a relationship ends, people often seek closure. When you leave someone due to their toxicity, freedom is often not enough. In fact, you cannot feel free without answers to lingering questions.
How to overcome suppressed anger and why it's dangerous
Much of the self-help advice out there seems to advocate suppressed anger. They bypass this important emotion and go straight to forgiveness instead.
How to deal with a narcissist or toxic person
Much of the self-help advice out there seems to advocate suppressed anger. They bypass this important emotion and go straight to forgiveness instead.
Why you stay in an abusive relationship with family
I received a message from a reader that described her mother’s abusive behavior. Despite having reached her 30s this woman continued to live with her mother and endure the abusive relationship.
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