Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
How to navigate rupture and repair in relationships
Have you ever felt a relationship go to the next level after you have a fight for the first time then come back together? This is the magic of rupture and repair, an essential component to healthy relationships.
How to know if you're getting too much solitude
We all know a certain amount of solitude is good for you. But how much is too much? Rather than measure in hours or days, it helps to look at the reasons behind your desire for time alone.
Fear and excitement and how to reframe them for success
Life coach Mel Robbins teaches that fear and excitement feel the same in our bodies. The only difference between the two is what happens in our brains.
How to achieve self-approval above and beyond self-acceptance
We hear a lot about self-acceptance these days, but what about self-approval? Wouldn’t you rather go beyond mere acceptance to lavishing wholehearted approval on yourself?
What causes emotional triggers and how to overcome them
In recent years society has taken steps to protect us from potential emotional triggers. These include warnings on books and other media that give consumers the choice to avoid content that may unduly upset them.
What is self-connection and how to connect with yourself
Before you can be any good to the world or anyone else, you have to know yourself. That means self-connection, or re-learning who you were before you disowned the parts of you that felt unlovable.
How to let go of the need to control
Do you have control issues? If you find it hard to relax and make room for surprises in your life, there are probably good reasons for that.
How to deal with avoidant attachment and dating
I recently re-read Attached, a seminal book on the topic of attachment styles in romantic relationships. One section of the book addresses the issue of avoidant attachment and dating.
How to let go of limiting beliefs that hold you back from your best life
What are limiting beliefs? They are those thoughts and feelings you take as fact that prevent you from living your best life.
Why it's important to forgive those who hurt you
It’s important to forgive those who hurt you for reasons that have nothing to do with them. At the same time, forgiveness should never be forced.
How waxing and waning applies to our personal growth
Like the waxing and waning moon, we have periods where we’re expanding into our fullness. And others where we’re leaned back, receiving the rewards of the harvest sown in our more active times.
How to trust your intuition and hear its signals
Do you trust your intuition? Some of us have spent so long ignoring ours or pushing it aside, we wonder if we have any.
How to stop letting people monopolize conversation
I first learned the term “monologuing” from the book Complex PTSD by Pete Walker. Rather than the opening scene of a talk show, this type of monologuing happens when people monopolize conversation.
How to know if you have an upper limit problem
I’m reading a book by Gay Hendricks called The Big Leap in which he talks about an upper limit problem. This is our tendency to self-sabotage when things are going well or after we’ve achieved success.
How to get treated with more respect in relationships
If you ask most people, they would call “love” the most important element of a relationship. But respect in relationships is equally important if you want to feel valued and cherished.