Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
How to deal with emotionally immature people
I’m reading Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson. It’s the follow-up to Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents which helped me understand why my parents could never give me what I needed.
How to navigate learned helplessness in your life
If you feel like you have little control over the outcomes in your life, you may be suffering from learned helplessness. It happens when you give up easily and become passive because you feel nothing you do will make a difference.
Gaslighting: what it is and how to overcome
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in the which the perpetrator denies or diminishes your experience. It’s a cruel emotional manipulation that makes you doubt yourself and even reality.
How to overcome procrastination that stems from childhood trauma
You’ve probably heard the common advice around procrastination. You need better habits and more willpower, or “just do it”.
How to overcome visibility fears after childhood trauma
If you come from a background of childhood abuse and neglect, visibility might seem harder for you than for others. It’s more than a matter of introvert vs. extrovert tendencies, or simply getting over yourself.
How to be confident in spite of your circumstances
If you come from a background of childhood abuse and neglect, visibility might seem harder for you than for others. It’s more than a matter of introvert vs. extrovert tendencies, or simply getting over yourself.
How to change your life with reparenting
One of the key tools when reparenting yourself involves developing strong boundaries. When you’ve been raised to cater to everyone else’s needs, setting boundaries is far more difficult than it sounds.
How to care for your inner child: 5 ways
When we grow up with unmet childhood needs, we learn to put others’ needs ahead of our own. We ignore our own needs, or try to take care of them ourselves, which leads to a neglected inner child.
How to overcome avoidance and head in the sand
Do you tend to put your head in the sand when challenges arise? Instead of facing something head on, do you struggle with avoidance of the issue?
How to stop feeling unworthy of getting what you want
Before I started my healing journey, a voice inside my head would whisper, “that’s not for you,” anytime I thought about something I wanted. Feeling unworthy came as naturally to me as breathing.
The surprising reason for self-defeating behavior
Have you struggled to relate to advice books that tell you all you need to do is adopt new habits or take certain steps to stop self-defeating behavior?
How to know if you have hypervigilance from childhood trauma
It’s natural to experience an elevated sense of anxiety when a threat arises. Then your system quickly calms down when the danger subsides.
Shame and guilt: how to know the difference
Since Brene Brown gave her famous talk, the pop culture difference between shame and guilt has become that the latter makes you feel bad for what you did. The former makes you feel bad for who you are.
How to stop hiding your core gifts
I recently read a book called Deeper Dating. In it, the author says the things we hide are our greatest and core gifts.
How to be kind to yourself
When you’re going through something hard are you kind to yourself? Or do you berate yourself for feeling the way you do?