Must reads to recognize & heal complex ptsd
How to achieve self-approval above and beyond self-acceptance
We hear a lot about self-acceptance these days, but what about self-approval? Wouldn’t you rather go beyond mere acceptance to lavishing wholehearted approval on yourself?
What causes emotional triggers and how to overcome them
In recent years society has taken steps to protect us from potential emotional triggers. These include warnings on books and other media that give consumers the choice to avoid content that may unduly upset them.
What is self-connection and how to connect with yourself
Before you can be any good to the world or anyone else, you have to know yourself. That means self-connection, or re-learning who you were before you disowned the parts of you that felt unlovable.
How to let go of the need to control
Do you have control issues? If you find it hard to relax and make room for surprises in your life, there are probably good reasons for that.
How to deal with avoidant attachment and dating
I recently re-read Attached, a seminal book on the topic of attachment styles in romantic relationships. One section of the book addresses the issue of avoidant attachment and dating.
How to let go of limiting beliefs that hold you back from your best life
What are limiting beliefs? They are those thoughts and feelings you take as fact that prevent you from living your best life.
Why it's important to forgive those who hurt you
It’s important to forgive those who hurt you for reasons that have nothing to do with them. At the same time, forgiveness should never be forced.
How waxing and waning applies to our personal growth
Like the waxing and waning moon, we have periods where we’re expanding into our fullness. And others where we’re leaned back, receiving the rewards of the harvest sown in our more active times.
How to trust your intuition and hear its signals
Do you trust your intuition? Some of us have spent so long ignoring ours or pushing it aside, we wonder if we have any.
How to stop letting people monopolize conversation
I first learned the term “monologuing” from the book Complex PTSD by Pete Walker. Rather than the opening scene of a talk show, this type of monologuing happens when people monopolize conversation.
How to know if you have an upper limit problem
I’m reading a book by Gay Hendricks called The Big Leap in which he talks about an upper limit problem. This is our tendency to self-sabotage when things are going well or after we’ve achieved success.
How to get treated with more respect in relationships
If you ask most people, they would call “love” the most important element of a relationship. But respect in relationships is equally important if you want to feel valued and cherished.
How to buy time instead of things so you can be more happy
A study published a few years ago showed that people who spent money to delegate tasks they disliked were happier than those who didn’t. In other words, when you buy time instead of things you feel better.
The most important relationship you'll ever have
The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself. – Diane Von Furstenberg
How to choose yourself and why it's important
What does it mean to choose yourself and why is it so important? For many of us, the concept sounds selfish. But, the best way to serve the world is to put yourself first.